Can We...

be friends?

Can a man and woman just be friends?? So many people have so many different opinions on this topic I don't even know where to begin. I believe there are two sides to every story. And for a man and woman to be friends both have to want the friendhsip.

I have male friends that are just that, male friends. There is no chemistry there and therefore the topic has never even come up of being more than just friends. They are people I hang out with, know through playing sports and from my industry (I work in a man's world). I don't even think twice about them at all.

Than I have a a couple male friends where we have to work in order to be friends because there is that chemistry between us and we are both very aware of it. It can keep the friendship going, knowing we are connected in a way that others are not, throughout the years. But I do have to admit that it is a lot of work to keep friendships like these just friendships. Simply neither of us want to harm the other or other people in our lives. So the friendship is something that both parties must really want and work to achieve. Once one person doesn't want the friendship anymore, it is simply over, no going back.

So there are two kinds of male and female friendships. Ones where there is nothing different than any other kind of friendship with a woman. There doesn't need to be boundaries set because there is simply no real chemistry there. You are just simply friends. Than there are the friendship that both parties truly have to want and work at. They are harder yes, but I truly believe the reward is much greater. There is more of a bond in those.

It all comes down to how bad both people ant the friendship.